Do you ever have dreams that wake you up and have you wondering?
I’ve had two recently. One is a recurring dream that happens every time there’s the sniff of change in my life and the other is a new one which had me in a night time sweat.
Number one goes something like this. We’re travelling along a road on a mountain pass in a landrover and we skid off the road on a perilous corner and fly through the air into absolutely nothing, and I say:
“Quick open the bloody doors and JUMP!!”
While Dave says quite calmly given the situation.
“No, buckle up and hold tight. It’ll be ok. Look! Weather’s lovely!”
WTF!
The moral of the dream I guess is that given change I want to bail, and quickly. While Dave embraces it and reminds me that jumping off cliffs into the unknown will work out fine as long as you buckle up, go with the flow and look for the new opportunities.
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Anyway, this latest dream has me climbing into a small aircraft, which has very high, widely spaced rungs to ascend. I get one foot onto the first rung and lift my other leg onto the one above, then reach up with one hand to the rung above my head. But I’m stuck and I can’t move my legs.
The plane takes off …
Go figure!
So anyway, we’re flying, but I have absolutely no control over my situation, which looks precarious and I’m hanging on for dear life.
Now dear Lifestylers I need your help, because change has entered my life again. There I was happily rubbing along in a cosy routine; lots of blogging, enjoying giving workshops, not too upset with doing a little housework and piddling about doing some gardening in our cute suburban garden, friends on tap, social life sorted.
All very familiar.
Then Dave comes home one day last week and says: “So we have a chance to go to Perth. How do you like the sound of that?”
To tell you the truth, I’m not immediately impressed. Off to the bright lights, traffic jams, lots more people and the rumble of the city. A new, busier life. Err, call me an old fool, but I am a little in love with peace and quiet right now.
Change has been an integral part of my life married as I am to a geologist. I’ve moved about 20 times, 11 of those being international moves and I wonder if the thought of change works for or against me now. I’m not sure that I’ve become a bit change-phobic, I’m gnarled and torn by uprooting.
And right now I’m in a very smoochy comfort zone.
Thank you very much.
But I know that we need to embrace change, and make the first move, because if you don’t then before you know it the first move is made on you and you’re caught off guard.
11 Reasons to embrace change
I’m not talking awful changes here, like illness or death. Don’t get me wrong. That’s something I couldn’t rattle off about. I’m talking about change as in things you could say Yes, or No to at a push.
What do you think?
- Change is important because without it there’s no growth; personal or professional.
- Change makes you feel alive.
- Change makes you learn new things; learning new things makes you grow; growing means living.
- Change makes you realise what’s ultimately important in your life.
- Change makes you look at bigger life issues and take stock.
- Change gives you the chance to reinvent yourself – a little, anyway.
- Without change there is no adventure in life.
- It takes less energy to embrace change than to fight it.
- Most people resist change, but successful people seize the new opportunities it brings.
- Fear of change means fear of the unknown and is much worse than change itself.
- Change gives you another dimension.
So I need to get off my butt and give myself a stern talking to.
Work, fun, life … lots of new stuff going on – just get with the progamme Jo.
Do you find that one part of you yearns for new adventure and change while another part resists and wants comfort. If so which wins out for you?
Until next time,
Thanks for the mention Jo! Great post. I absolutely love change. It’s the sign of living a good life, because change means growth which means you’re staying alive and embracing everything as it comes to you. The more you learn to love change the easier it is to cope with it. Travel is the best way to do this I think!
I love your positive reinforcement, Caz! Yep, it’s better to love change and cope with it ๐
Thanks for the link-up, Jo! There are two things I always think of when it comes to change. 1) I’d rather die trying than never have tried at all. Regret can be a terrible thing and I’ve learned from past decisions. 2) Once you figure out that change needs to happen, it’s then about the pain you’re prepared to go through to make that change happen. It’s not easy to follow through with it – do you have the stomach to go the full distance? Have a look at this older post I wrote on the subject of change ‘and’ pain – http://www.insearchofalifelessordinary.com/2013/12/giving-something-up.html ๐
That’s a pleasure Russell ๐ Yes, I totally get your add-on tips to ‘change’. Regret for not having tried is a horrible feeling much worse than the pain of making a change come to fruition and possibly finding that you don’t like it when you ‘arrive’.
I am not good with change or taking leaps of faith. And I for one will miss you Jo. But I wish you well in your new life in Perth. At least I can still catch up with you in blog land. And thank you for all your encouragement and support over the last few years. xx
Ahhh, thank you dear Jill. But we shall see each other, maybe more, and anyway, it’s not a completely new life, not just yet.
I say embrace change because it’s going to get you in the end anyway, why fight it, it hurts. Look at the good stuff that’s going to come your way with change, if it turns to crap then pull up your socks and have another go. I for one will be excited to see more of you xxx
And I … you too .. Rae x Love your sentiments. Change requires tough love ๐
Over the years I had a lot of tsunami dreams and I’ve taught myself how to breathe underwater now! Apart from the wall of water I don’t get scared now and I can always fly.
I’m moving from Ireland [after 21 years here] back to Perth in January with Coco dog.
Lots of change and I just take it step by step.
And on the happy side – we can meet up for latte and chats!
xxLiz
Wonderful Liz! I shall look forward to it ๐ Love that you can breathe underwater now ๐ Lol!