Today Mum left on her final journey. She travelled to a tranquil grave with a pastoral view in a sylvan English village in North Devon near a beautiful church dating back to the 1300s. As I learn to cope with my grief, I’ve been reflecting on some of the life lessons learned from Mum.
Lessons Learned in Life Quotes
I learned so many lessons about life from Mum when she was alive, but her death has made me think deeply about the reality of losing her and all that it implies, not to mention the subsequent grief.
I found the following life lessons quotes helpful in my grief. I hope they might resonate with you, or help you if someone close to you has passed away.
“Grief is the price we pay for love.”Colin Murray Parkes, psychiatrist and grief expert
That’s so true. The harder you love, the harder you’re likely to grieve.
Try not to hurry grief. Walk slowly and pause often.
Don’t be disturbed by memories which pitch up unbidden, just let them come and go.
Be gentle with yourself, take time and walk steadily with grief pausing often.
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”AA Milne. Winnie The Pooh.
If you’ve had a relationship to cherish, it’s going to be hard saying goodbye. Be gentle on yourself and take your time.
“Life is a song – sing it. Life is a game – play it. Life is a challenge – meet it. Life is a dream – realise it. Life is a sacrifice – offer it. Life is love – enjoy it.”Sai Baba. Spiritual leader and philanthropist.
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said,Maya Angelou
people will forget what you did,
but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Looking back now, I can see clearly that some life lessons I learned the hard way, while others were imbued in me just by watching Mum.
Lessons Learned About Life
- Love unconditionally.
- Retain a sense of humour at all times.
- In company be engaging, fun and interested in others.
- Dress your body well. Importantly dress well to suit your body shape in your own style.
- Go on that trip!
- Don’t look for reasons not to go.
- Don’t agonise over the challenges.
- Just look for the adventure and GO!
- When hardship strikes, strike back.
- ‘Pack up your troubles in an old kit bag,’ and move on.
- Don’t look back.
- Love and treat your children’s partners as if they were your own.
- It’s never too late for a new start – new life, new love or new companionship.
- You are never too old to start over again.
- Make time for your grandchildren.
- Develop relationships early on in their lives.
- Involve yourself in their achievements, ask about their days, play games, laugh with them, love them to bits.
- Communicate across distance however you can – even if it means learning about new technology and ways of communication.
- Don’t judge your children’s life choices, support them.
- Accept their decisions and realise that their life journeys may be different to your own, although you may not be able to understand their reasoning at the time.
- Welcome your grown up children and their families into your home, and take the time and energy to make it worth their while to come and see you.
- No matter what age you are, never ever stop learning.
- Throughout life improve on, or develop a passion which will challenge you, interest you, and absorb you for the rest of your life.
- Life is short. Don’t hold grudges.
- You always impressed on us that life is short, so don’t hold grudges.
- Be Kind. Be Generous. Always
- Love with all your heart.
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