We had just been to the movie to see Finding Your Feet which was all kinds of hilarious, heartwarming and inspiring. It offered up lots of little life lessons for later mid-life.
It touched on all sorts of issues, and the acting from Imelda Staunton, Celia Imrie, Johanna Lumley, Timothy Spall and David Hayman was wonderful and very real.
The movie relied on reality and wrinkles and wasn’t Hollywood glitz, glamour and cover-up at all, and its messages were very much to make the most of every day and make the effort to Act, Belong and Commit.
It made me think a lot about getting older, and yes, a little bit concerned that time is in fact not on my side anymore.
Will I reach a ripe old age? Will I make the most of the years leading up to that?
Little Life Lessons
Then I asked myself – “So Jo. What would your 95 year old self tell you?”
I think she would tell me to be brave and feisty and fearless.
Like the woman who was asked …
“What position do you like best?”
“CEO” she replied.
I don’t know why that made me laugh so much when I read it – but it did. Really tickled a funny bone in my psyche.
Enjoy Every Day
I think my 95 year old self would say there’s a lot to be said for going lightly through life, having a sense of humour, enjoying every day for what it is, not longing for things, or how life might be, and not sweating the small stuff.
My 95 year old self would tell me …
Chill out – retirement will sort itself out – just enjoy the now and let tomorrow take care of itself.
Get a move on!
Do what you love!
Just do it!
Suck it up Princess!
Kathy from 50 Shades of Age said, “Mine would say ‘go to Europe’, she would wouldn’t she, surely she would say that?”
Another friend said that her 95 year old self would tell her, “Just travel and spend the kids inheritance!”
Someone else said hers would tell her to, “Lose some bloody weight!”
I think she would tell me at 60 that, “You’re not old yet – don’t act it.”
Little Life Lessons & Tips from my 95 year old self
Be positive. I saw a quote on Facebook which said something like don’t be the moaner in a group of people, but be energetic and positive. As we get older it’s easy to talk about our aches and pains and worries, but looking on the bright side is so much more energising for ourselves and others.
Don’t go to bed brooding. Yes, always kiss and make up if you have an argument with your partner before bedtime. Always say sorry, and go to bed with a smile or you’ll exaggerate your negative feelings during the night and wake up feeling terrible.
Be curious. Keep learning. Be open to new technology, learn something new, take a course, go to a conference, you are still worth it.
Open your Eyes – make sure you keep your eyes wide open. Don’t let a day go by when you don’t find something beautiful to stop and gaze at and admire.
Do Good – just be nice. Don’t be egotistical. Help where you can. It’s the little things which count in the end, not the grand gestures. People will always remember you for how you made them feel, rather than all your great achievements.
Don’t be demanding. Be happy with what you’ve got and don’t always think about what you’d like or how you’d like your life to be in the future. Try and always be a giver, not a taker, and always be generous of spirit.
Cherish your friends online and offline. Even those you haven’t seen in years. Keep in touch on social media and remember the good times you spent together in real life. Who knows one day you might be able to meet up – and Woot Woot – crack open the champagne for a good old chinwag.
Always Challenge Yourself. There is never a good reason to sink into a comfort zone and not challenge yourself. Do something that gets you up and out ever day and improve your self confidence daily.
Count Your Blessings. Always. Whether it’s first thing in the morning or last thing at night.
Don’t watch too much TV. Need I say more? It’s a time waste and a time suck.
What would your 95 year old self tell you?