Today we feature a heartfelt guest post from lovely Lifestyle Fifty reader, Mary Martin from ‘HugMomma’ in which she urges us to view life as an adventure and live life to the fullest.
“Life: It’s messy… it’s beautiful. The memories we carry with us are not at all that define us – the memories are what propels us into the next chapters of our lives. It is ours to decide what those chapters will hold, as we continue to walk.”
Over to you Mary …
This summer, my youngest son moved out of our home.
The transition was less than smooth. Words were said and trust was broken in such a way, that my heart was shattered.
Feeling as though my identity was defined by who I am to my children, the rift in the relationship with my son shook me to my core. Wrestling day and night in my mind over things that were now beyond my control, sleep and peace were things of the past, and the bitterness of loss and failure took their place.
After months with no improvement, panic that my young years were gone gripped me, as well as the knowledge that my investment was not only unappreciated, but resented. I felt like my life was over.
Everything that meant anything to me was slipping away, and there was nothing that could be done about the direness of the situation. With my purpose eroded, even getting dressed felt pointless, and I didn’t know what would become of me.
A New Journey
After a long season of withdrawal, one by one, friends would come by to say how they had missed me. With their persistent love, kindness and generosity of time, gradually the understanding that though I identified myself by my children, the rest of the world did not began to sink in.
One step at a time, I began a new journey of what this next season of life would hold, and I slowly awakened to the realization that my life wasn’t over at all, it was just beginning.
While I loved every moment of being “Mom” I began to release my white knuckled grip on my duty and responsibility to my children. I found that the liberty and adventure of living my dreams was patiently waiting for me.
Yes indeed, life had changed; it was going to be getting a whole lot better!
A Daily Walk became my Release
At the encouragement of an old friend, I began to prioritize taking a daily walk. Walking has become an escape and release for me. Just as she had promised, “it would do as much for me as any medicine could”. Being in the cold crisp air of winter lifted the heaviness of my heart, and tired my body that I could find sleep.
Out on the roads, I would talk with God, often crying out in the time alone about the overwhelming circumstances I found myself in. The Lord showed me that when I would challenge only one hill at a time, and do it with Him and in His strength, that the challenges were no longer overwhelming, but invigorating. In doing so, the challenges I faced at home took on a new perspective, one that was realistic and manageable.
Many times I had the beautiful company of treasured friends to lift my spirits and sweetly remind me that I was much more than the problems I was facing. Their words and reassurance was heaven sent, and I thank God for the blessing they have been in my life.
Achievable Goals and Healthy Rewards
I walked every day that I could, setting goals for myself with healthy rewards, that included things like; new nail polish, new makeup, and getting my hair done. By using positive rewards that made me feel good about myself, it propelled by quest into full speed.
Within a few months, my shape was coming back, and I had lost quite a bit of weight. Frequently I would bump into friends and neighbors out around town and the changes they saw in me were so drastic that they didn’t even recognize me.
Life is an adventure
Feeling energized by the positive changes I could see in my body, health, comfort, and appearance, I began find joy again in the things that had once been my favorites; connecting with special friends, going to church, and walking in nature. My eyes were reopened to the wonder of beauty, and the excitement and adventure each day could hold. Feeling as though my youth had been renewed, I found the little girl that I once was.
Life… It is an adventure… it is messy… it is beautiful. The memories we carry with us are not at all that define us, they are what propels us into the next chapters of our lives. It is ours to decide what those chapters will hold, as we continue to walk toward the Voice that beacons us.
Live Life to the Fullest
No longer do I have a life that is fearful and careful, I can spread my wings and experience the liberty that comes with maturity. Life need not fade off into the distance, it can be embraced and enjoyed in a new threshold of freedom. Wonders await on the next hill, experience the adventure.
I run, I leap, I soar in the weightlessness of freedom. Wind rips through my hair with the force of realized liberty to my soul.
Believing in the call, my goal is not to remain intact, but to finish well having given my all. Without reservation, and with great anticipation … I run and I leap.
Bio: Mary J. Martin lives with her large, blended family in Central Pennsylvania, USA. She is the writer of Hugmomma as well as an administrator and contributor of the United Conservatives Post . You can also follow Mary on Facebook
Do you, Lifestylers, run and leap experiencing all that life has to offer? What are you doing that is propelling you into the next chapter of your life?