I’m off to a very important wedding, and I need your help Lifestylers to choose an outfit.
But seeing as I have had a lot more experience in choosing the wrong things to wear to weddings, I’m going to rephrase What to Wear to a Wedding with What Not To Wear to a Wedding, in an attempt to remind myself to be mindful in my outfit choice and maybe to give you some food for thought as well.
Hmm, as if you feisty females need any advice at all.
Back in my good old bad old days I have made terrible faux pas when it comes to dress correctly for an occasion. I cringe at the memories. Not that I ever truly intended to upset anyone, mind you, but I just did because I didn’t really think about the outcome.
Like the time I travelled from our more tropical home in South Africa to rainy England when I was much younger, and wore a bright pillar box red and electric royal blue outfit to my sister’s first wedding for no other reason than I like bright colours and that’s what I had in my wardrobe. But it was totally the wrong thing to wear because she is not ostentatious and she wore a delicate and demure cream wedding dress (and looked gorgeous) while mostly everyone else looked, well – toned down to suit her style and the English country garden style nuptuals.
Suffice to say, I stuck out like a daft peacock in the wedding photos and there are remarkably few of me on the mantelpiece. I don’t have to think very hard to wonder why.
What not to wear to a wedding
- The number one rule: Don’t wear white, or any shade of white unless the bride has told you it’s okay.
- Try to think about the bride’s style and complement that rather than contrast.
- If you know what the mother of the bride is wearing try not to wear the same style or colour. She is the second most important female of the day.
- Don’t show too much skin … plunging necklines are out at our age. So too is anything you might consider wearing to a disco (does anyone go to disco’s anymore?)
- It’s okay to accentuate one great asset but not all at once – low neck, cut-out back, short hemline for summer weddings – If you want to … pick just one but make it a little discreet.
- The wedding might seem like a theatrical event of Cirque du Soleil proportions but remember you are not the star. It’s the bride’s day – she is the one who must steal the show, so dress for the occasion but don’t dress to stand out.
What do you think of some of the outfits below?Would you wear any of these styles to a wedding? I thought they all look smart and stylish, and are really well priced. Animal print dress $51 AUD – amazon.com Dana Kay flower dress $37 AUD – amazon.com Dana Kay floral dress $85 AUD – amazon.com Dana Kay red dress $31 AUD – amazon.com
- Don’t wear something too clingy, and don’t wear anything super short.
- Read the invitation carefully. If there are clues such as ‘semi-formal,’ ‘casual’, ‘formal,’ or ‘beach chic’ then read between the lines and dress appropriately. Even if it’s beach chic, you are probably not okay in shorts and flip flops and if it’s black tie, a long black-all-over dress is probably going to be too funereal.
- If you’re not one of the bridal party it might be better to opt for a print or floral design so that you don’t look like a bridesmaid, and by mistake wear the same block colour as they’re all trotting in. I’m reliably informed that popular block colours for bridesmaids are coral, pink, blue, grey and cream.
- Having said that, don’t wear a loud jungle print or anything super sparkly, which could be a talking point, detract from the bride and put you on the ‘Most Talked About Guest’ list.
Ultimately, dress according to the invitation but wear an outfit that suits you. Don’t be overtly flamboyant. Be well groomed. Dress to be yourself, and wear something you feel confident in and can stand around in for a long time.
So what do you think – are any of my in-wardrobe dresses suitable for the very special wedding I have coming up or should I go out and buy something else?
Do you have any tips for wedding attire – or any funny wedding stories? Do spill the beans in the comments 🙂